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How does your child behave himself/herself at school?

How does your child behave himself/herself at school?
When Teacher Knows Best

If you are caring parents you always know what you child is worrying about. When it comes to knowing about your child's fear of certain kinds of dogs or whether she is particularly susceptible to a throat infection, Mom and Dad know best. At school everything's different - there your youngster exists in another environment, constantly co-operating with boys and girls of his/her age and teachers or tutors. And that is why other behavioral and health-related issues often manifest themselves in school - issues classroom teachers may understand better than anyone. After all, think of the time children spend in their care.

Unlike families who usually have only one child of a given age, teachers are experts on all students of that age. Seven or eight hours a day is a sizeable chunk of time for another set of eyes to observe children in a wide range of activities. Behaviors that may seem merely annoying at home may send up red flags at school. In the case of a seasoned professional, the child is also "seen" in relation to a caseload of thousands of predecessors.

Aggressive Behavior

At home, the child who picks on a little sister may be seen as merely indulging in sibling rivalry. In the classroom, however, the child who lacks the skills to communicate his needs, who cannot respect the possessions of others, who asserts himself physically, and who may even feel that he is the "victim." stands out as a child in need of help. This child may feel especially vulnerable and helpless because of some change at home (illness, a new sibling, a recent move, bickering), may be intimidated by a situation in the classroom, or could be experiencing anxiety.

Though some parents may consider a hard talk about the child's behavior as a kind of "personality conflict", they brushes off what the teacher is saying some other defensive position. Can that really help the child? Excessive shyness, an inability to make friends, or unfounded fears may be other characteristics observed by the teacher that should be shared with parents. Be very attentive to the words of a teacher and talk to your child about it.

Destructive Habits

Climbing the ladder to the middle school years, other behaviors, even more serious in implication, may be apparent. Eating disorders, such as anorexia nervosa and bulimia, may also come to the teacher's attention. Students with these disorders often spend excessive time in the bathroom, and their behavior may cause concern among their classmates, who can confide in a trusted teacher or counselor. Many schools educate students about these unhealthy behaviors, and teachers and students often know more about them than parents. If you suspect that your child has an unhealthy relationship with food, don't overlook that valuable ally -- ask the teacher.

Other all-too-familiar school habits include smoking pot or cigarettes, drinking, "huffing", or sniffing glue. If you're suspicious that your son or daughter is flirting with dangerous behaviors, it is important to seek help at the school. In the school-age it is so common to be cool among those of your age and children may do some of above-mentioned things just in the company of their coevals. Habits that may be controlling a child's life often become apparent in a school setting, away from the parent's observation. Pay more attention to your child's behavior.

Meet the Teacher Halfway

What's the best way to find out if a child is manifesting any behavior that you should be aware of? Ask!
Teachers can be reluctant to notify a parent if they are only suspicious and have little real evidence, other than a hunch. But parents can tap into these informed guesses by asking teachers if they have noticed anything troubling or unusual. When it comes to protecting young people from harm, teachers can be the best friends parents have.

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